BEING LIKE THIS WILL ONLY HURT YOU

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NOPE.

It’ll only get in the way of your progress!

“I feel like I’m gonna go crazy if I don’t have control over this. I don’t know how I’m gonna handle it if this doesn’t go as planned.”

For decades – those exact thoughts went through my mind. And, I can truthfully say they didn’t make my life easy at all.

Having control of every single area of life just makes sense though, doesn’t it? I mean, who doesn’t want the feeling of having everything go as planned?

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. Things happen. Life throws curveballs – and just when we least expect them, too. Insert memory of losing my job (not to my doing) while on vacation in Vegas only one month after moving into my new apartment. YIKES!

To say I felt like I was losing my mind is a total understatement. I felt I was losing my entire existence.

Feeling the need to have it all together and in your total power will only exhaust you. Stuff happens. That’s just the way it goes. That’s the twisted beauty of life.

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Learn to let things go.

It wasn’t until weeks after losing my job that I learned it had all been a true blessing in disguise. Things happening – especially stuff that’s wayyyy out of your control is not a reflection of you! It doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It doesn’t mean you suck. It doesn’t mean that you’re doomed.

Being a control freak will only hurt you. It’s a form of perfectionism. The need to have things go perfectly your way is unrealistic, and not to mention completely draining.

Learn to just go with the flow a little bit. Little by little, it gets easier to do so.

Not only is it liberating to let the universe handle things on your behalf once in a while, it’s also comforting. Not having to be attentive 24/7 to every single thing going on in your life will free you – mentally and emotionally.

I can honestly say that every situation that I’ve completely let go of wanting to have total control over has worked out in my favor. One way or another, what’s meant for you will be.

Have faith. The universe is always on your side, you crazy control freak, you!

REVEAL YOUR MISSION,

Vanessa